Set the Record Straight

Have you ever wondered what that means? Setting the record straight? I was trying to think of a way to explain how the last few weeks/months of my business life has NOT gone as planned, and this is the best phrase to do so.  I want to set the record straight that being your own boss and owning your own business is NOT easy.  Small business ownership is hard. Really hard. And anyone that tells you otherwise - they may have a lot of money and can afford to pay people to not have to deal with problems when they happen.  Because issues/challenges/problems whatever you may, they happen. It's also very lonely, or can be, when you're out there doing your thing and something happens to YOUR business and it affects you personally.  A business is like a relationship, and unfortunately, I'm left feeling both heartbroken and lonely on an island of "HOW DID THIS HAPPEN TO ME?" or "WHY OH WHY?" with my head in my hands crying.  David encourages me by saying these situations have been learning opportunities and to move past it.  If you know me, you know I'm more prone to lean on the positive side of things, so he doesn't have to encourage me with that but in these cases he does, and he needs to do it often. He's probably sick of reminding me they are "learning opportunities" to be very transparent, but he does, because I need to hear it.  And yes if you're wondering what happened, too bad.  This is also a quick chapter of #vaguestoriesbyLail because while I want to share how business can be hard, I can't really share why this particular season of my business is so difficult.  So in a nutshell... this Summer, I'm working (really I'm not working) to find my footing again and bring some peace and passion back to my heart for this business.  


Since I don't linger in the negative for very long, I keep reminding myself of the phrase "if it won't matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 minutes on it." is probably one of the best pieces of advice I've ever gotten.  The thing is some of these challenges I've faced could affect me 5 years from now but I didn't want it to, so I resolved them best I could so I could move on.  Sometimes the best choice is to do nothing but in these cases, I couldn't do that.  I am one of those who choose to DO THE RIGHT THING, and I like to believe I generally know what the right thing is in most situations, but I will always add, NOBODY IS PERFECT(!!!).  

I'm still hurt and upset and angry and working through it.  I know these challenges won't define me or my business as they are just bumps in the road.  However this week for the first time I did question my choice to continue moving forward with everything.  I was quickly reminded deep from within that I have very supportive family and friends and my amazing team that keeps me steamrolling through this "season" of my business.  As my friend keeps telling me, "you're a force to be reckoned with," so I will thrive and I will continue through this season of my business, because that's what strong boss ladies do. 



P.S. What's for lunch today? I'm having a vanille premier protein shake, woot! 

Jessica Lail

It's Your Day Wedding Coordinator, Harrisonburg, VA, USA